THE GIVING OF A RING
THE GIVING RIGHT HAND AND RECEIVING LEFT HAND

The meanings of our hands are different. The right hand is the ‘giving’ hand, yang in China. On the opposite, the left hand is the receptive hand, yin. (Reverse in left handed people).

Different cultures emphasize either the giving aspect or the receiving aspect of our hands: a wedding ring is worn on the second finger of left hand in most Christian Culture, yet in other parts of the world, some people wear it on the right hand. This reflects different ways of thinking and a different approach in the couple and family relationship. There is no actual right or wrong, wear your ring according to either your own personal beliefs or those of your chosen culture.

STATEMENTS TO INCORPORATE INTO YOUR PERSONAL VOWS FOR THE EXCHANGE OF RINGS

  1. Each time you wash your hands or reach out to touch something you will see this ring remember this moment as the beginning of our journey together. When you look at this ring you will remember the words we have shared and the vows we have made to each other today. This ring is a reminder of the great love we share and of the wonder of our union. I love you as much as I possibly can and hope you feel this in your heart each and every time your gaze rests upon this band of gold.
  2.  Accept this token of my love as an outward and visible sign of spiritual grace and the unbroken circle of love. Let it signify to all who see it upon your finger, that our union is strong and will not be broken.
  3. These rings mark a new beginning in your journey together, may you both accept them in the spirit of wonder, surprise, laughter, tears, and celebration.
  4. Let us bless these rings, with our love and support and honour those who wear them May you both live in peace and realise your potential as both individuals and the couple you have become.
  5. You are exchanging rings made of precious metal, but do so in the knowledge that they are made more precious by your wearing of them, for they will adorn your loving hands and be present in your embrace.
  6. As you wear them, may they be a constant reminder to you of one another, and of the deep bond of faith, trust and love which they represent.
  7. You have chosen rings made of gold /platinum a precious metal, which symbolises that your love is the most precious element in each other’s life. Treasure them as you treasure each other.
  8. These rings exist in a constant containing no beginning and no end, which symbolise that the love you share will never cease.
  9. May this circle of rings become the symbol of their endless love and serve to remind them of the importance of the vows and legal covenant they have entered into today to be faithful, loving, supportive and most of all kind to each other from this day forward
  10. These rings are a visual the symbol of the commitment which binds these two-loving people into the couple you see before you today.
  11. These two rings are shared today, representing two unique people, each making their own contribution to the life of the other, and to their new life together.
  12. Without beginning or end and with no point of weakness, the circle is a reminder of the eternal quality of love and of unending strength.
  13. The ring is a symbol which proclaims to the world that you share a love with another and that you are deeply connected in the bond of marriage.
  14. Do not see these rings as a token of ownership or dominance but rather let them be a reminder that love needs to be offered and not just felt, given freely at all times and accepted with a sense of grace and humility.
  15. When others see your ring they will know you’re married. When you see your ring and feel it on your finger, you will be reminded that your love not only needs to be displayed and conveyed in action.
  16.  ……………and ……… you have just made promises of love and devotion to each other. Understand that these rings are the visual symbols of the those vows you have spoken. They have become the vessel that holds your words, look at them and remember how you feel today.
  17. Think of the words you have just spoken of loving and cherishing, in good times and those of stress, of respect and love. These words are now encased in your rings. Touch them and relive the promises you’ve exchanged.
  18. Look at your hands and admire your rings. They now embody all of the promises shared between you. This hand will not stay the same, wrinkles will form, scars may appear alongside blemishes and age spots and just as we change with age, thoughts hopes and dreams change much like your hands, but these changes just signify growth through time Embrace these changes. love endures but it does need work and maintenance. You will inspire each other and with support grow stronger together. Age does not diminish love but like a good bottle of wine allows it to evolve and develop which only enriches the experience, so enjoy the journey and be reminded of your vows today, your promises to love, cherish, and respect one another no matter what life brings or what paths you take, these vows will remain around your fingers. Your love will be constant as you walk together into the unknown.
  19. Your rings and your vows will cling to your finger and hold you together no matter
  20. You’ve both chosen to wear rings as a reminder of these promises. People often say wedding bands are a perfect circle, with no beginning and no end, but these rings did have a beginning. The stones were formed a long time ago deep with the earth, they rose to the surface, were collected, and polished. Metal from the ground was liquefied at a thousand degrees, poured in a mold, cooled, and polished, raw and natural elements had been shaped and manipulated into something beautiful. We could be describing Love. Love, its beginnings are gentle, a hint of suggestion, a glance, a thought an idea. Of its own volition, it evolves through a mixture of serendipity and purpose, begins to take shape. Without orchestration, a melody of motion takes shape and from something raw and imperfect something extraordinary develops. Love blossoms and a union is forged. It’s the process of making something beautiful where there was once nothing at all. As you look at these rings over the years, I hope you remember that. You’ve created something invaluable, and just as I know you’ll protect these rings, I’m confident you’ll protect the commitments you’ve made to one other today.
  21. Let the seamless circle of these rings become the symbol of your endless love and unending faithfulness.Your wedding rings are most special because they say that even in your uniqueness you have chosen to be bonded, to allow the presence of another human being to enhance who you are. Your rings carry a potent double message: We are individuals and yet we belong; we are not alone. As you wear them through time, they will reflect not only who you are but also the glorious union that you are now creating, as your friends and family we bless these rings and the two of you as you exchange them.
  22. Your wedding rings are most special because they say that even in your uniqueness you have chosen to be bonded, to allow the presence of another human being to enhance who you are.